Jan 16 by Mark Gregston.

Freedom from Performance

Kids make mistakes.  Sometimes really stupid mistakes.  But when your teen messes up … do you come unglued?

I find that too many Christian families have a love affair with perfectionism.  And that means when a teen does something wrong … it either ignites an ugly altercation … or … worse yet, it gets silently swept under the carpet like nothing happened.  Sound familiar?

When mistakes are made, how ‘bout saying something like this:  “Son, you don’t have to perform for me.”  Then, say this … “Son, I won’t leave when you do something wrong.”  They’re some of the most healing words spoken in families today!

Next time your kid goofs up … try practicing grace.


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