Parenting Todays Teens Radio
  • Performance of Fear (5-24-2011)

     

    PODCAST SCRIPT:

    Some teens live with the fear that if they make a mistake they will lose their parents’ love.

    If you have a performance-based relationship with their child, that relationship is driven by fear.  They may respond by trying to be perfect, never making any mistakes, or they could just give up trying and rebel.  In either case they will lack the confidence that comes from unconditional love.

    My kids sometimes disappointed me, and gave me some of my gray hair, but I’ve learned to never given them reason to think their actions in any way affected my love for them.  While we want to reward good behavior and correct bad, it’s vital that we convey the message that our love will never change.


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