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  • Favorite Word in Conflict (3-31-2011)

     

    PODCAST SCRIPT:

    Let me share with you one of my favorite words when it comes to managing conflict.

    There is a lot of power in the word “nevertheless.”

    When a conflict starts, first, respond by agreeing with your teen in some way, then interject “nevertheless”.  For instance, “Sweetheart, you have merit for being upset — I’d be upset too, nevertheless…our rule is to speak respectfully of one another, even when we’re upset.”

    Or, “Son, I know you don’t like having a curfew. I didn’t like it either when I was a teen, nevertheless…”

    Handling conflicts this intentional way sends your child the message that you understand their feelings, nevertheless, the rules are the rules and they are to be obeyed.

     


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