Archive for June, 2010

Handling Anger (6-30-2010)

Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Parenting

 

PODCAST SCRIPT:

Do you give your teenager the freedom to blow up and act extremely immature without losing your love for them?

It’s easy to love your teen when they’re happy and behaving. But what about when they scream they hate you, slam doors, and kick your dog?

The best way to handle extreme outbursts is to answer their anger with love. Calmly let them know you love them, period. Don’t let them off the hook for their bad behavior, but separate their actions from your love for them.

Tell them, “There’s nothing you can do to make me love you more, and there’s nothing you can do to make me love you less. I’ll always love you just the same.”

Teens Learning To Take Direction (6-29-2010)

Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Parenting

 

PODCAST SCRIPT:

No one likes being told what to do, but it’s a part of life, so teens need to learn to willingly take direction.

A sign of maturity is to accept being told what to do. We all have to…in school, in our jobs, and as citizens. So, the earlier one accepts this truth, the better.

Teens should make small decisions, like what meal to order or what clothes to wear; but they still need direction in life from a wise manager, even if they don’t want one. Your goal is to help your kids get to where they want to go, and to keep them from where they don’t want to go, even if they don’t yet know which is which.

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Confident Parenting (6-28-2010)

Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Parenting

 

PODCAST SCRIPT:

John Rosemond, in his book “A Family of Value” says parents need to be “good actors,” inspiring their children by displaying confidence in their own decisions – even if they secretly wonder if their decisions are right.

According to Rosemond, parenting is like leading a country. If the president is indecisive or waffles, the people tend to lose confidence and faith in him.  Applying this leadership principle to your family, vacillating about decisions in front of your teen will cause them to lose faith in you. They’ll think your decisions are arbitrary and subject to change or interpretation.

On the other hand, acting confident and being consistent in your own decisions will help your teenager remain consistently confident in you.

WEEKEND: Drugs and Alcohol (6-26-2010)

Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Parenting

 

HALF-HOUR PODCAST SUMMARY:

Many parents believe that a normal, healthy family life will prevent their kids from experimenting with drugs and alcohol.  But, as teens are exposed to these activities without parents’ knowledge, no family is immune from substance abuse!  On this edition of Parenting Today’s Teens, Mark Gregston educates parents on the actions that’ll help prevent drug use.

No Bribes Here (6-25-2010)

Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Parenting

 

PODCAST SCRIPT:

Some parents make the mistake of accepting bribes by their teenager to get around the rules.

If it’s improper a young teen to go to an R-rated movie, then why do some parents cave in when they’re offered a bribe like, “If you let me go, I’ll go to youth group this week!”

Accepting such bribes does two things. First, that the parent really didn’t believe in their own rule, or they wouldn’t have reversed it under any circumstances. And second, it tells the teen that all they need is a bride each time to get what they want.

Don’t accept bribes from your teen. It only serves to discredit your authority and confuse your rules.

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