5 Ways to Release Tension at Home

Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Parenting, teen culture

 

What’s the atmosphere like in your home? Is it calm and even-keeled? Or does it feel like a storm is always on the horizon? Today on Parenting Today’s Teens, Mark Gregston encourages moms and dads to make their homes a safe harbor from their teen’s hectic, crazy world.

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Sleuthing for Answers

Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Parenting, teen culture

 

When a teen starts spiraling out of control … parents are often at a complete loss for what to do.

Before you can address any problem, you need to understand what’s causing it. So if your teen is struggling … don’t be afraid to ask questions. Try getting to the root cause.

If your teen isn’t willing to talk … do a little sleuthing. Talk to his teachers and coaches, his youth leaders and friends. See if they have any insights into what’s causing the change in behavior.

And in the meantime, take comfort in knowing that these painful trials aren’t wasted. Second Corinthians 4:17 says, “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.”

Mom, Dad, don’t give up the fight. Your love, your investment, will be worth it all!

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Insanity at Home

Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Parenting, teen culture

 

Albert Einstein once defined the word insanity. And it applies to parenting your child.

So what’s the crazy maker for parents? According to Einstein it’s “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Parenting is no walk in a park. For sure. And just when we get the hang of it … everything changes! The parenting methods we’ve used in the past stop working. And we’re left scratching our heads.

Well, children grow. And as they do, the way we relate needs to change. You can’t discipline a fourteen-year-old the same way you did when she was four!

Are the old methods failing you? Hey, Mom, Dad, stop the insanity and try another method. You cannot do the same thing over and over again and expect different results!

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The Parenting Pendulum

Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Parenting, teen culture

 

Today’s parents want a deeper relationship with their teen than they had with their own parents. It’s well-intentioned. But taken too far, the outcome will disappoint you.

My dad, like yours, was focused on providing for his family. We always had food on the table and a roof over our head. But the relational side was more than lacking.

Then the ‘60s and ‘70s came along. We swooned over lyrics like “All You Need Is Love” … and started applying them to our parenting styles.

Neither extreme is good for our kids. So if you’ve allowed the pendulum too swing too far … it’s not too late to find a healthy balance between authority and relationship.

Love your teen. But don’t cross that slippery boundary and become his friend alone. To hold his heart … you need to remain his parent.

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Walking ATM Machines

Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Parenting, teen culture

 

Do you ever feel like your teen treats you like a walking, breathing, ATM machine?

We’ve all been there, haven’t we? Hardly a day goes by when a teenager doesn’t ask for something. But when parents continually cave in … they often fail to realize the long-term consequences.

For example, you might view that new pair of shoes or that upgraded iPhone as a generous gift … but your teen sees it as a God-given right.

There’s nothing wrong with parents (and grandparents) who want to give their children nice things. But when you hold back, you give your teen something much more valuable.

Restrained desire is something all of us have to cope with. Mom, Dad, let your son or daughter know what it’s like to work for something they crave, and feel the reward of earning it.

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