Ending Family Chaos – Boundaries

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Last week I wrote about the first step in developing a Belief System for Discipline for your home — to identify your basic beliefs. The next important step to avoid family chaos is to evaluate your personal Boundaries and how they relate to your beliefs. Boundaries define you. They are the fence posts placed around your behavior, or the delineation of how your beliefs are to be lived out . They are the “I will” and “I will not” statements that are the basis of your daily living and interaction with others. When they are defined, they help everyone in the family take responsibility for their own behavior, make their own choices, and know if they are headed into dangerous territory. >> Article continued…

Ending Family Chaos – Beliefs

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When a teenager doesn’t know what is expected in your home, he does what seems right in his own eyes – and that’s a formula for chaos.

A good way to avoid chaos in the teenage years is to establish a Belief System for Discipline, which is a clear and undeniable plan for what is expected in your home. A Belief System for Discipline is all about positive training or reinforcement for dearly held beliefs but also includes what consequences to expect if the rules are broken or boundaries crossed. The root of the word discipline is “disciple” – and discipline for your teen is best characterized by positive training or discipling, just as we saw Christ demonstrate with his disciples. >> Article continued…